Active Relationships for Young Adults

ARYA (pronounced “are ya”) is a 12-session, 45-minute/session, skills-based program to equip youth to make wise choices for a successful life.  A.R.Y.A. teaches youth how to build healthy, respectful relationships at home, school and at work. There is a Secular edition and a Christian A.R.Y.A available.

A.R.Y.A. equips youth with practical tools and skills that include promoting responsibility for more peacefully interpreting events and teaching skills for recognizing and lessening destructive behaviors.

Participant Goals also include:

• Learning effective communication
• Avoiding faulty assumptions (more peaceful interpretation of others)
• Addressing money management, responsibility and budgeting
• Managing emotional triggers/upsets/anger
• Implementing effective, respectful conflict resolution
• Awareness of personal safety and breaking cycles of violence
• Learning about responsible parenting and paternity awareness

Also, it teaches youth to analyze the consistency of behavior in friends before awarding them their trust. It cautions youth about influences of attraction phases. The program teaches youth to set goals and to navigate and overcome barriers.

A.R.Y.A. is evidence-based and used by federal grantees, schools, and agencies, including correctional facilities for struggling youth.

What is required to teach A.R.Y.A.:

*Facilitator certification (“live” training or by Certification-Out-of-a Box kit)

*One textbook or one workbook per student (to keep) for each class taught.

Optional: Multi-media tools for presenters (PowerPoint presentation and youth activity DVD/Video segments)

Companion/parallel program:

   (877) 724-7789   Email ARC(at)ActiveRelationships.com

Life Skills for Use with Friends, Family, Future Marriage Partners and/or Co-Workers

Session One: Effective Communication Skills
Whether you tend toward introversion (being more quiet) or extroversion (being more talkative), learn to share information clearly and to hear information without distortion. Learn the impact of optimistic styles and pessimistic styles of thinking and learn successful communication techniques to use with friends, co-workers and loved ones.
Session Two: Using the Brain for Positive Perspectives
Learn why you react the way you do- Brain Physiology. Learn to engineer optimal reactions rather than letting life control you. Learn power thinking to shape healthy perspectives and increase success in all areas of life. Examine the origins of your hot buttons/triggers and decide whether past coping mechanisms are outdated and what will work for success. Explore the mechanisms of anger, learn to respect anger’s power to distort and use feelings wisely rather than letting them control you.
Session Three: Understanding Money Beliefs and Values
Learn about your money style and a frame of reference for the many ways to manage money. Learn to work with others who may differ from you and learn how to quell resentment and even appreciate differences. Learn the pitfalls of power struggles and set up your money life to be successful.
Session Four: Planning and Managing Money
Practice creating a budget and adjusting for different variables in life. Examine your views about money, and different ways to handle finances. This section also addresses ways that men and women can be different when dealing with money, and provides questions that can help identify expectations about money in future relationships.
Session Five: Managing Anger and Building Family Safety
Learn the specific tools of anger management techniques. Anger distorts thinking and is counter productive to choosing behaviors that get you what you really want in life. Train yourself to control your own physiology and give yourself greater opportunities for life success.
Session Six: Defining and Changing Destructive Behavior
You may think you know when you are acting destructively, but it may surprise you to know that even most adults don’t! They think what they are doing is acceptable and besides that, it is what they have always done. Learn to recognize daily destructive habits and substitute habits that ensure your success for a rich, satisfying life.
Session Seven: Tools for Resolving Differences with Respect
Know that you know what NOT to do. Learn step-by- step procedures for resolving differences that result in good feelings between people rather than lingering resentment. See examples of conversations that end well.
Session Eight: Peer Practice to Resolve Conflict and Overcome Trouble
Review the techniques of conflict resolution and practice the techniques.  Practice peer coaching to help others move more smoothly through differences of opinions. These skills are necessary to navigate life well. They pay off for a lifetime with friends, co-workers and loved ones.
Session Nine: Romance, Physical Attraction, and Commitment
Learn the “Biology of Love” and why people do such crazy things. Learn about human chemistry and its ability to distort the thinking of otherwise intelligent people! Learn how to make choices in spite of desire and reap the long-term rewards of “right” choices.
Session Ten: Choosing Relationships Wisely
Learn what to look for in friends, businesses to work for, or a partner. Make sure you are choosing wisely the people with whom you spend your time, effort and life. Making unwise choices can cost you dearly. Learn the skills to choose associations that will make your life much more pleasant, more fun, and more successful.
Session Eleven: Life Goals and Responsible Planning
Learn to live each day well and in a balanced way. Set up practical habits that keep connections strong and allow you to live your dreams, reflect your values and experience the goodwill of others. Learn techniques for meeting, greeting, parting, communicating regularly, and establishing stronger bonds with those you care to know.
Session Twelve: Celebrating Strengths
Determine your values and your strengths. Decide what it will take to live according to what you cherish most, giving those things the most of your effort and attention. Learn not to be diverted by life’s “squeaky wheels” and to proactively build your dreams into a reality for long-term success.